Why Marriage?
- Mar 7, 2018
- 3 min read
Preparing for marriage may seem discouraging and difficult. The whole process is complicated. Many of us are searching for "the one" but honestly that person is extremely difficult to find. Let's say you find this magical person. We know that the next step in pursing the one you love is getting married. With the big ceremony, the white dress, the dancing, the celebration, and the honeymoon. It's a thrilling part of life. Often this question is one many of us ponder...
Why get married if it only ends in divorce?
As you've probably caught on to, we live in a very broken world. Parts of life that God created to be perfect are being used and abused and have become imperfect. That is the root issue as to why there is divorce is simply that. I can't tell you exactly how God would answer that question but I do want to shine a light on Matthew 19. You should read the whole chapter but first let highlight verse 6.
"So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate."
If you are struggling with this, and honestly no matter where you are in life pray over this verse. Digging into this verse the first thing that pops out to me is "no longer two." Two whole individuals completed in Christ, seeking God in their relationship and life. That statement ends with "but one flesh." This doesn't mean that your spouse is who completes you. Society has this mindset that marriage is when two halves become whole but that isn't the case it is two wholes become one. There is a big difference. Ladies and Gentlemen if you are looking for or are with a person who is your everything it is time to reevaluate, it is time for change. The only person who completes you is Jesus. If you are searching for a human to fill that void you will end up disappointed, empty, and tired.
With all this being said, God did gift us with the ability and blessing to be in relationships that are either leading or in the context of marriage. One of the first commands the Lord gives us is "to be fruitful and multiply" and y'all we can't multiply without sex and that requires being married (at least from the biblical perspective.) We are wired to want relationship but we are designed to need Christ.
You should get married, if God has put you on that path. As a single lady I know the singleness is hard and wonderful, but as someone who has walked through relationships of many kinds I know they are complicated and beautiful. Marriage isn't easy but honestly easy is all that people seem to want. Our Lord and Savior is bigger than the divorce issue in this world. We need to hit the breaks because no matter the caliber of relationships you are in right now there is something that you chase above chasing Christ and that is the foundation that your relational issues lay on.
The song "Love is not a Fight" deeply inspires me as I seek to follow Christ, in every relationship and in life.
Y'all think about this, pray about your relationships, and open the word of God. Stay tune for more to come, there are loads of questions we still have to answer. Feel free to ask us some of the ones you ponder.
You are loved! Go live fearlessly!
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